Coach A: Huh? Dr. D: I said don't even know where to start. Coach A: I mean, well, first of all... Welcome one, welcome all to another installment of the unofficial transcript where we apparently pissed the internet off. Dr. D: Yeah. Just some boys. Coach A: We apparently pissed the boys of the internet off, because we're gonna say, man, let's be clear. Dr. D: Mm-mm. Coach A: Yeah, hopefully, you know, everybody's having a great day today. Dr. D: Yeah. Coach A: Hopefully, specifically all the women. I hope all of the women listening are having a great day today. Dr. D: Yeah, I know they are. Because why not? Coach A: How are you doing today? Dr. D: I'm doing well. I've spent the afternoon coloring in my fancy little coloring book books period. mean plural not period ⁓ I've been coloring not all day, but that's definitely been a nice source of relaxation David Coach A: Hell yeah. Mm-hmm. I know. Can't complain. I mean I could complain but what good would it do? Dr. D: and yohu. Yeah, that's very like a black woman if you did not complain even though you could. Coach A: I drank today. Dr. D: You know who is complaining? Coach A: I have I have a idea of who's complaining. Dr. D: The men's, the boys in our comments are really stressed. You guys, you girls. Coach A: Yeah, so our last episode where we kind of unpacked ⁓ the documentary that we watched on Netflix, Inside the Manosphere, you know, we did that episode, we say what we said, and that made a lot of people upset, specifically those who do not have a vagina. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yeah, it caused a lot of ruckus. Coach A: called a of rockers. So, you know, here we are, spinning the block. Dr. D: Here we are. Because this is a topic that I could really go on and on and on about. Like I feel like I've been preparing for this. This is my Olympics. This is my, what is it, my all-star weekend, I guess. Coach A: I mean, just to give you a little bit of insight as to what has been said, not you, but the people listening, as to what has been said to us in the comments, I figured I'd read a few. Since they want the attention so bad, let's just go ahead and give it to them. Fuck it. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Coach A: So somebody who I have to say this has the handle pimphandstrong6620 said that said that don't need us to survive because we've made the world safe for you. Fool. Dr. D: Fool! I love it. Love it. 25 degrees between us, but, but I'm a fool. Okay. Coach A: BOO! Somebody who was pimp handed strong has apparently kept us safe for all these years. Dr. D: just want to know, like, the question is safe from who? Like, who are we? Coach A: I'm saying from me, who do we need to be? Dr. D: Who are men keeping us safe from if not men? The cognitive dissonance, you really, like you, this is why I say it's a cult and this is why I say men are incompetent. Like they're proving the point in their responses. Like these very irrational, emotional, factless responses is something that Coach A: It's not meh! Dr. D: I don't know, like I get a weird enjoyment. Like I really, I really quite enjoy having these conversations because there's no logic. Like if you, if you read through what they're saying, there's no logic. Like, what do you mean you kept us safe as if you're not the biggest perpetrators of violence against women? Women aren't the biggest perpetrators of violence against women. So you're keeping us safe from yourself? Like how does that make sense? You're solving a problem that you created. Make that make sense. Coach A: It don't. And not even solving it. Let's be clear. Dr. D: Hello? Anyway, yeah, Pimp Han. And then like, your name is Pimp Han. Let's unpack that. Because what are pimps if not men who exploit women for financial gain? What are pimps if not men who exploit women? So you think clearly that's something to aspire to because you named it your name. Coach A: the jokes write themselves, the jokes fucking write themselves Dr. D: Of course, all these people, all these bots, whoever are hiding behind these weird AI profile pictures and like ridiculous... nom de plumes on YouTube, it's like clearly you think that's something to aspire to. So I don't know, like there's inherent danger in your username. So what are we talking about? Coach A: The thing that is really getting me is one of the first clips that we posted from our last episode was essentially ⁓ talking about how black women carry this burden, right? And every other demographic pretty much has somebody that they can pass their burden onto. I believe you used the word push down, right? Like you said, black men can push down white women, which is true. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Coach A: And white men can push down everybody, which is true. White women can push down every other demographic of women who is not white. True. Fact. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Right. Coach A: Somehow and you saying that men took from that that black men are under attack. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. no. ⁓ I don't understand how one could even mean the other. Like, what are we talking about? Attack is such a crazy word. But the thing is, even if I was attacked, even if we talked for 45 minutes, an hour and 45 minutes, attacking black men, so what? ⁓ biggest perpetrators ⁓ disappointing ⁓ disrespecting. Coach A: You Dr. D: and abusing black women are black men. So yeah, I'mma talk about how much I... much the disdain I have for black men on our platform. Are you crazy? Coach A: Yeah. Yes, I would say yes. I know that was a rhetorical, but I would say yes. Dr. D: It's like, so what? Like yeah, black women talk down upon black men and they should be talked down upon. Do see how they come in the comments? Well, we're talking about something completely different. We're talking about misogyny, patriarchy. We're talking about racism and patriarchy. And you're saying, ⁓ well, I'm a victim. Now you a victim. Okay, cool. Coach A: Yeah. The thing is Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Coach A: with these clips that we're posting in these episodes that we're posting y'all understand that the clip is exactly that it is a clip Is it edited? Yes. At the same time, you have to have the entire context of the conversation. Because somebody ran a comment that was like, if you go to this time stamp, you can see that she said that men are incompetent, blah, blah, blah. If you listen to the fucking clip, dummy, you would know that she did. Did she say that men are incompetent? Yes. Did she walk that back? Also, yes. Do I think she should know? No. Dr. D: Yeah. Right. within 10 seconds Coach A: No, because every single time y'all show y'all ads, y'all prove her to be right, that y'all are fucking incompetent. So even though she walked her back, I don't feel like she should've, but she did. She gave you the benefit of the doubt. Dr. D: You The thing is I walked it back within like five seconds of saying it. Like I said, men are incompetent. And then I said, let me not say that. And you're right. Do I have a right to say that? Yes. But as someone who was very strategic with my words, I'm very intentional about the words that I say and the words that I don't say. So if I say something and I'm like, Ooh, I might have misspoken, I'm going to correct it. if you would listen to like, it's just funny. Cause he said, yeah, Kings listen to, Listen to this point, this time stamp in the episode, this sums up how they feel about men. It's like, yeah, yeah kings, it is how I feel about men. Coach A: Thank you, TuneIn! Dr. D: Thank you for getting that for an episode. I think like... Coach A: We had another person jump in our comments who went on a fact checking spree, which I have not confirmed any of these facts that he spewed in the comments. Cause I don't care to you because at end of the day, it's a moot point. essentially, essentially this guy had to not comment and was saying like, Oh, black women are, they're losing their jobs and they're unemployed and they're facing foreclosure at the highest rates and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Dr. D: Pfft! Yeah. Coach A: So it's CNBC, like first of all, first of all. Let me. ⁓ black women facing these challenges? Absolutely. Are there systemic issues going on? Absolutely. And guess what? Despite all of that, black women still getting the shit done. Black women still what out your black ass like that? You still black women are still among one of the most educated groups. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah. Can't take that away. Coach A: Black women are still raising your kids! Despite all of these challenges, despite being saved by those who fucked up the system to fuck up again with. Dr. D: Can I read the latter half of like what this person said? So they said, they said companies forced to hire, I think he meant forced past tense, but he said force. Companies forced to hire black women under DEI have stopped. DEI is gone. Truly competent employees kept their job when DEI was removed. So you're implying that black women aren't competent, right? Cause you're saying you're talking about black women's unemployment rates. Let's die. I am an English major, right? So companies forced to hire black women under DEI have stopped. DEI is gone. Truly competent employees kept their jobs when DEI was removed. At this point, black women are just drinking their own Kool-Aid and it's poison. While Black women are working their ass off on jobs with degrees and student loan debt, making companies a lot of money, the women in other communities are building families and wealth with their husbands. I think that little slick, truly competent employees kept their jobs is a dig. Okay, when it's about black men tearing or black women tearing down black men, I feel like you were trying to say that black women are incompetent because we lost our jobs at alarming rates in 2025. Hence the misogyny, hence the misogynist war, hence the racism, sexism that pushes black women to the bottom. we getting it? Are we getting it? Black women are uniquely marginalized. So when stuff hits the fan, they're the first to kind of suffer the consequences. Right. Okay. So at this point, black women are just drinking their own kool-aid and it's poison. While black women are working their ass off in jobs with degrees and student loan debt, making companies a lot of money, the women in other communities are building families. So you're implying that black women should drink the kool-aid of the other cultures women, other cultures. who build wealth, like we're not comparing other races. We're really not. Black people are the most marginalized group. There's a word for nigga in every language. There's a derogatory term for a black person in every single language. So I'm not comparing black people to any other race because our plight is unique. So to say that we should be building wealth with our husbands, what is... What is the economic power of black men in this country? Coach A: I'll wait. Dr. D: I'll wait. Bring those facts up, King. Whatever. I'm not even gonna say your username. It's not worth it. But like, bring those facts up of the wealth disparity or what the average black man's net worth is. I bet it's freaking nothing. And I'm not saying that that's how it should be. I'm not saying that I'm happy that that is the fact. The fact is that Black men are disproportionately affected by all of the laws, right? So they're in prison or they're dead or there are all these things that make their lives not comparable to these other races. So why am I comparing myself to other race of women who are building wealth with their husbands when those husbands have a viable chance at accruing wealth? Like, what are we talking about? Black men don't have a viable chance at accruing wealth, especially the way that they're going. In our comments, talking all this rah rah like, what are you talking about? Go get a job. Go build something. Go fight in the army. Go build something else. Coach A: Right. And also, trying to blame the unemployment of black women on DEI is one of the most insane things you could have ever said. First of all, black women have long been undervalued, underpaid, while being overeducated long before DEI became a part of your vocabulary, my nigga. Dr. D: Right. Coach A: dummy. Dr. D: You know, like I could call myself an expert on that. Like I feel like I could a little bit. Like I have done a lot of research on it and I've wrote a lot about it. So like I feel very confident in saying that it has nothing to do with DEI. There's nothing to do with, you're saying truly competent employees kept their, like I feel like I'm stuck on that because there's a lot, Coach A: at all. At all. Dr. D: there's a lot of hatred, there's a lot of like underlying rage in that comment to say like black women lost their jobs because they're incompetent. So therefore we should be helping our men build wealth. Like that's insane. It is insane. That is a fallacy and it's not realistic. Not because black men can't aspire to wealth and can't earn like they don't have the potential to, they're, but they're not living up to that potential. And that's the whole point. Coach A: for Dr. D: They can have all the dreams of being a millionaire entrepreneur, whatever, but are they actually taking steps to do that? No. They're living in their mom's basement or in their baby mom's basement. Coach A: period period Dr. D: contrary to popular belief, they did not build the world we live in. Somebody else said that we built the world you live in, without us you would die in a month, within a month is what they said. So okay, death threats, cool. Coach A: I don't see in everything but Christ anyway. Dr. D: I'll say that. Coach A: ⁓ OOOOHHHH Dr. D: I just think the irony of men in our comments. really true. the thing is I really truly believe that they believe that this is the truth. And this is exactly the point that we were talking about in our last episode where the men at the top, the influencers, the people who are making money off of these dumbasses in our comments, the people who are feeding them this content, they don't believe this. But y'all in our comments who are repeating the same like word vomit, y'all are sipping the Kool-Aid. Like it just proves the point. Coach A: Step in the cool way. Dr. D: that you are like they are spewing these like talking points that make no sense while someone else gets rich off of them because you're getting this you're getting these words they're in the comments like yeah kings like they're their own community so whoever gave y'all that umph that idea they're making money off of you like you all are like y'all should just go make out honestly like all y'all should just go make out somewhere Coach A: Hehehehehe Dr. D: That's what I think. Like I truly think that men, most men, especially black men, your best match is with another black man. Because clearly y'all think the same. Y'all are so compatible in these comments. Y'all should just go kiss. You're so aligned. Coach A: keep your pimp hands strong. Dr. D: And clearly black women aren't like, we tear you down, we don't respect you, we don't want to build wealth with you. Because we built our own wealth for ourselves. We built our own shit. We went to college, we did our own thing. And since you can't, you can't keep up. So y'all are in the comments like, yeah, King, they hate us. Coach A: Good. do ⁓ men, black men, why do y'all have this thing ⁓ where y'all this need to feel needed? You have to feel needed. So when women say, or anybody says that women don't need you, it triggers you. It triggers you. Why? Dr. D: You Coach A: Why does it trigger you? You should be happy! But no, since you a man, you gotta be the provider, you da-da-da-da-da-da-da. Dr. D: think it's because they're devoid of critical thought, of the ability to think critically and to empathize. Because to say I don't need you doesn't mean I don't like you or love you or want you in my life. You should want somebody who's self-sufficient. Like you should want to be with somebody who's a grown adult and is fully ⁓ capable of doing whatever they need to do for themselves. In a relationship, you're the bonus. Like you're the sprinkles on top, you're the cherry on top. You're not the entire cake. I'm my own cake, you're your own cake. I sprinkle on top of you, you sprinkle on top of me. there's, if someone's like needing you is your whole identity, you have no identity. Like what do you like to do? What do you like? What do you love? What do you want? What value do you bring to the world? Coach A: if your identity is built- if your identity is built on being needed what happens when you're not fucking needed? you have no identity like you said, you have none you have none you fucking have none Dr. D: Yeah And I think that's a word to the men and the women, like to girls, like, and I think especially, like I wanted to come on here, especially to the young people who watch us. Like I know like there's a percentage of our, of our viewers who are younger than us. And it's like, I don't want women, young women and girls to think that this is normal and this is how a man should talk to you. Coach A: Mm. Dr. D: or anybody who you're messing with should talk to you and how you should live your life truthfully. Like if you're basing your life as a young girl, as a young woman on being needed. you'll never have a chance to do or you will eventually like you're gonna hit a ceiling with that you're gonna hit a wall with that and and have this epiphany at like 24 25 26 and you're like damn i spent my whole life this far being somebody's mom somebody's girlfriend somebody's wife somebody's provider and you haven't ever taken the time to live for yourself and so these idiots in the comments saying things like Don't waste your time working because you're incompetent. You should build with your man like other, like white women do. You're tripping and black girls, don't do it. Don't you ever, ever in your life think that it's a smarter decision to build wealth. And I'm saying this because they don't, they never build it. Like it never gets built. That's the, that's the spoiler. They, never, the wealth never gets built. They just feed you dreams. They just feed you. Coach A: ⁓ can you, can you co-sign for me to get this car and then, and then, like... Dr. D: Listen, I'm speaking from my heart and from my life and from a lot of my homegirls' lives. A man or anybody, but especially a man, will take and take and take from you until you have nothing left. They will literally suck the life out of you and then when you all sucked up like a Capri Sun, they're gonna go on to the next Capri Sun and suck the life out of them. Literally parasites. Because no actual man, no viable partner would encourage you, would one, call you incompetent and two, encourage you to not work so you can build wealth with their dumbasses with no actual ambition. No actual plans to meet those goals. Like they're selling you pipe dreams and I'm here to tell you that you shouldn't buy it. Coach A: and we'll And at the end of the day, it's nothing that a man can provide for you that in the year of our Lord 2026, you can't provide for yourself. Dr. D: ⁓ well. You literally- Coach A: Not a thing, not one fucking thing. There's not one thing on this planet that a man can provide for you, allegedly, that you literally cannot provide for yourself. Dr. D: or order on Amazon. Coach A: Hello. Hello. Dr. D: I'm just saying Coach A: Mmm. What a world we live in. Dr. D: It's just like I think it's funny Like I get a kick out of this I really do I really get a kick out of argument on the internet and it's been a while I like this has pulled me out of retirement Because I used to I used to really have a have a good time debating but then I realized I wasn't making money off of it So like what's the point and also I went to grad school and then I went to grad school again and I was busy but like it's something about arguing with a man who like they're ⁓ Like their logic never comes through, they just get louder and louder and more like, crashy-ow-y. Like there's never any logic that comes into play. don't I, I love to debate, like I can definitely change my opinion if I'm persuaded in one way or another, like once I get more information, because that's what critical thinkers do, if they get information that makes sense, then their opinion changes because I'm not married to any one opinion. But really with arguing with men, especially these kind of hotep- ⁓ what are they called? Man-a-sphere red pill guys? Like, there's no logic. They're just like, regurgitating the same fortune cookie type language that, you know, their big daddies tell them to say. Coach A: Yes. Yes. Yes. Dr. D: We also got called fatherless, which is so funny. Because if you know, you know. Coach A: Cause if you know you know. Dr. D: Yeah. What are you doing with your shirt? Coach A: And it's crazy because I'm pretty sure half these people in the comments, daddies, wasn't around. Them fucking selfs. Dr. D: Nobody's daddy was around. That's the thing. Most people's statistically, I'm not even being facetious. Most people's daddies weren't around. Like it's not a secret. So when we say men aren't shit, it's like, look around, take a look around. Who is your network? Who is your circle? Who is your village? If you are blessed to have a bunch of standup guys in your village, okay, lovely. Love that for you. But the reality is most of us don't have a lot of male influences that are positive. Maybe if you're lucky one or two, they're related to you. But for the most part, there's not that many people who can say they have a thriving network of strong men to look up to because they're not around. Like either they're not here, they're not strong, they're not alive. They're not. Coach A: period. Dr. D: free. Like there's there's so many systemic issues again. I'm not saying that this is a moral failure on black men. I'm saying it's systemic that black men are targeted to these to to live these kinds of lives that take them away from their communities. However the reality is the ones that are left are bums for the most part and the ones that aren't bums aren't checking for black women. Coach A: period period Dr. D: So, you know. Coach A: I mean personally I'm gonna it's my opinion is my platform. So I'm just gonna say this I Really don't give a fuck if you're a black man listen to this if you a man listens to this I really don't give a shit what your nationality and what your race is. It doesn't really matter But if you are a man who feels Strongly against anything that we're saying number one. God bless you number two. I don't give a fuck and number three Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Eugh Coach A: It ain't shit you can do that's gonna stop black women from still getting the shit that they wanna get in this life and in this world. It's nothing you can do. You can be mad about it, you can cry, you can kick or scream. You can say whatever you want. It's not gonna matter. Black women still gonna own businesses. Black women still gonna raise these kids. Black women still gonna make this money. Dr. D: Yep. Coach A: and they still gonna leave you in the dust. So while you sitting here crying, woe is me, woe to bow me. Why you doing all of that? Why you doing all of that? Black women still building and you still trying to figure out you can be needed. Don't nobody give a fuck. It's literal people are dying in this world and this is the hill you choose to die on. People are literally getting blown the fuck up. Blown the smoochies. Dr. D: Yo. Coach A: And this is the day you're choosing to die on in April of 2026. Oh, if it wasn't for me, everybody would die. Many, many people are dying right now! What the fuck now?! Dr. D: It's a choice. It's it's boys. It's literally boys. Y'all are the ones fighting. Like hello. Coach A: No! don't watch the news, but the last time I turned on the news a couple days ago, I ran head a countdown clock. Dr. D: Which is like, what? Coach A: And y'all keeping us safe? Get out of here. I hope to God that when they have this draft, I hope your sons and you is first in line, God damn it. I hope y'all first in line. Trump gonna get your asses up out of here. With your dumb ass. Dr. D: Yup. B-boys! Like, that's the thing. Coach A: Yeah, save us, us! ⁓ my god, I'm in saving! Peace! Peace! Dr. D: I'm helpless damsel, I suppose. Coach A: Please, your pork chops will be ready when you get back. Dr. D: ⁓ They won't. If it's me cooking them, they won't. They'll be getting flowers in the attic, pork chops. Coach A: Wait! Please! Dr. D: This is... Coach A: Nobody, nobody is even, this is the thing. it just baffles me it does not matter it- it really doesn't matter what black women say we could be talking about we could be trying to speak life into each other and b- black men could be nowhere near the conversation but somewhere it's gonna be a black man that will enter that conversation with this bullshit what about me? ⁓ yeah that- y'all we all need- is that a- like nobody was talking to y'all Dr. D: Yeah. What about me? Coach A: or about y'all but y'all make it about y'all all the time y'all always rushing to defend y'all when nobody needs defending And if y'all had half the energy that y'all had to defend yourselves, to defend black women, we wouldn't even be in this situation. We wouldn't even talking about this. If y'all had half of that energy. But I digress. Like she said, I think y'all need to date each other. Y'all clearly are on the same page. Y'all are so aligned. Y'all should just date each other. And half of y'all date each other anyway. But that's a different conversation for a different day. I won't go there. And I said what I said. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. I mean, Pride Month is soon come. I feel like we can circle back in June because truly you all are clearly very compatible with one another. You all are on the same wavelength when it comes to gender roles and such. Like somebody just, somebody be the girl, somebody be the boy, it's fine. It's fine. It's literally fine. I feel bad. Like I think, For me, I don't really have to deal with men this much. So I like, this is fun because it's like very foreign. It's like, you know, it's like a fun project, but this is not my day to day. Like I don't live or work, well not live, but I don't work around a bunch of men where I have to interact with them. And I actively, I have been divesting from men or like just make the like patriarchy, I suppose, since high school. Like I don't listen to... the music that men put out for the most part. I don't really listen to, I personally, and this is more misandry than like, ⁓ what's the word, feminism? Like you can say that. I identify as a misandrist, which means I just don't really mess with men, period. ⁓ you forget or I forget like how truly toxic and ridiculous the ideologies are on that side of the internet on that side of the world like they're really men walking around probably around me right now that have the most like ridiculous opinions about gender and women not a not a degree not no credential but a birth certificate but they got a lot they got so much to say about society, about women, about our value, about what we bring to the table. like just just hood sociologists, I guess. No credentials, no nothing, just just vibing. It's very it's very astounding to me to like read some of the things that they're saying. Like we watched the documentary. And so like, again, there were no black men featured in the documentary. There was a white guy and like maybe Southeast Asian. And then another white guy or a biracial guy but there was no like black man so there was no there was not a lot of representation for like the hoteps or like the the more afro-centric men who have these similar thoughts but they clearly they all flooded to our comments because they in there saying hey kings this is what we think so all the hoteps congregated in our comments so you know if you have if you have more to say you know feel free Coach A: ⁓ yeah, like I- listen, I ain't gon' never duck no smoke. And this coming from somebody who- I've been around men all my life. Most of my friends have been men for the majority of my life. So it ain't nothing that you saying that I haven't already heard, whether directly or kind of tongue in cheek. And while y'all talking all this shit about how like, ⁓ if men weren't here you would die, blah blah, if women- Dr. D: Yeah. Mm-hmm. Coach A: We're not here, black women specifically, we're not around. Dr. D: You would also die, because where are you coming from if not a woman? Coach A: At a bare minimum, your food will be unseasoned as a motherfucker. Dr. D: No, at bare minimum there would be no men. If women weren't around, there would be no humanity. Because men are mutations of women. Coach A: facts. Dr. D: The XY happens after the XX. So everyone starts off XX. So all men are really mutations. And I'm not being funny. That is science. So like, all of this like, hatred towards women is just so like, crazy to me. And I know we're not talking about religion today. We will one day. But I think it really makes me think, ⁓ Coach A: No, it's facts! Dr. D: Like I saw something that said like religion was created or specifically like these Christianity or like even Abrahamic religions were created because men don't want to acknowledge that there's a female creator or that females create life. Right? Like they had to create this whole narrative. Did these events historically happen that happened in the Bible? Probably. Did these events actually happen to real people? Probably. But the way it's contextualized within the Bible as like this other thing that explains subjugation of women and people of color and all the things, it's like that's totally manmade. And I think the argument that it was created to be just because men could not acknowledge that women are creators. We had to create a man creator to put over the woman creator. Coach A: Mm-hmm. Dr. D: It just, I don't know, like clearly it's epigenetics. Clearly misogyny is epigenetic. So I guess all the men in our comments are doing exactly what they've been programmed to do. So I just challenge you to think a little bit more critically, all of you all. Coach A: Yeah. Period. Yeah, and in all jokes aside, you know, we, at end of the day, I don't believe that ⁓ women ever wanted to get a point where they don't like, where they don't want to need men. Like, ⁓ I genuinely don't believe that. think what happened is women recognized the gaps. And instead of bitching and moaning about it, they got off off they ass. And they filled in the gaps themselves. That's what happened. So the goal was never independence forever. To me, like I don't believe that the goal was ever for women to be 100 % totally independent ⁓ I think the goal was having a choice. Like I could be with you ⁓ Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Coach A: have you give me less than or I could go get it myself. Those are the options. And so I do not want my entire life, my entire existence, everything I have in this world to be dependent on you, who I can't depend on. Dr. D: Right. Right. Hello. Like literally you're not dependable. If I could depend on you, I would. Coach A: But I can't depend on you. Dr. D: So I won't. Coach A: So I won't. And everything you can do, I can do 10 times better. And I know you said that you ain't really interact with men like that, especially in your professional life. But as an engineer, can tell you, I've been in many, there are many rooms I walk in where I'm the only female. The only black one at that. Dr. D: Yeah. Yeah, that sounds like prison. Coach A: And men, when I tell you the way that men, black, white, purple, orange, it really don't matter what the color is. The way that men carry themselves as if they are the smartest person in the room or the best person in the room when it's like really you're dumb as a box of fucking rocks. The shit that you say don't even make sense. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Coach A: Common sense, you are lacking. Competence, you are lacking. You are in this position because another MAN put you there. Dr. D: Yep. Yeah, literally put you there. You didn't earn it. You did not earn it. Coach A: No one put you there! So while you over here trying to- you're literally- I won't say literally, you are figuratively letting other men bend you over just so you can walk around and say that you- cause you got this type- like, fuck all of that. Do you know the difference between there, there there? Dr. D: No. Clearly they don't. If you read the comments. you read the comments. Subject-verb don't know each other. Coach A: Hehehehehe. Hehehehehe. Hey, and, ⁓ compa- Compound that with the fact that you can't even find the clue. What you good for? What you good for? Dr. D: You know. I wasn't expecting that. Coach A: WHAT ARE YOU GOING FOR?! Dr. D: Absolutely nothing I'd argue. I posit. Coach A: You can't read, you can't fuck, you can't provide. What are you good for? What are you- Tell me! Seriously! Dr. D: You know, I have no no coherent answer for you because I really don't I could I couldn't find the answer I think this is the majority of men. I'm not gonna say all men, cause some of are gay. And they live in their truth. Coach A: and that's cool, be gay, like be gay but you have to pick a struggle like you have to pick a struggle Dr. D: But I'm Yeah. Coach A: Have to. Dr. D: I feel like gay men who are in rel- who are like, not DL, but like truly gay men who live their life with- around other gay men are probably more likely to have ⁓ a coherent, like very well suited to prosper together because they both- are typically have a good earning potential between the two of them. Like two male incomes, are you kidding me? Two, a double male income household? No kids? That sounds like that's what y'all should aspire to. You know, know, what are measly income? Coach A: I've seen gay men. I have seen gay men provide more for women in all of the ways than straight men. Dr. D: Yes! Yes! Coach A: and I mean, ⁓ I'm not talking paying bills and all of that. I'm talking just ⁓ simple elementary shit. Like outside, you at the club, a gay man will walk you to your car to make sure that you safe before a straight man ever would. ⁓ Dr. D: and will and has and has and will Coach A: I'm talking basics. Dr. D: Human decency. Human decency. But that's feminine, I guess. That's a girly trait, empathy, to care for others. And then you wonder why you're alone, because like... Coach A: Yeah, I got, yeah, yeah. I was right to say, I would literally use the words that are in my mouth because instead of being with whatever black woman you could have been with, you on YouTube talking to us! Dr. D: Swapping us! Like, get off the YouTube, get off the computer, get off the game. Coach A: Go touch grass, touch a pussy. Like, god damn. Dr. D: Touch indeed or LinkedIn Coach A: You ⁓ Dr. D: That's what you can touch. Touch and apply. Touch a transcript. Touch a class. Touch a calcul- Touch a calculator. Something. A ruler. A protractor. Compass. Something. Something that's gonna get you out of your mouth's basement, which is where you're commenting from. Coach A: Touch a book. LIGHT! Dr. D: I I truly think that, I don't know, these types of men are just, it's almost like a case study to me. It's fascinating, but there are truly people out here because this is just not the world I function in. So it's almost like ⁓ a zoo, like a science experiment where it's like, ooh, if you provoke them this way, how are they gonna respond? We got called fatherless? We got called fatherless? We got called... Coach A: And it's so easy! Dr. D: We drinking Kool-Aid, we tear men down, and I think even still right now we're not tearing men down. I feel like everything we're saying is like an observation. Like these are just my observations. Coach A: No. But that goes to show you just how incompetent they are. It is so easy to bait you motherfuckers. It's so simple. It's so easy to bait you. We weren't even trying and we baited you. We weren't even trying. Wasn't even talking to you. Wasn't even talking to you. Wasn't talking to you. Wasn't talking about you. Wasn't even addressing you. And here you are. Welcome. Welcome my niggas. Dr. D: Yeah. Yeah. Bye! No! Welcome to Coach A: and you just mad that there's women out here that can steal your job and your girl that's what's really the problem you mad ⁓ because there's women out here who can do everything that you can do ten times better you mad you mad about that it's okay but instead of ⁓ Dr. D: Just be better. Coach A: Instead of leveling up, instead of doing what you gotta do to reposition yourself because one of the things that's most constant in life and in this world is change. The world is evolving. Women have evolved and men, black men have chosen to stay the same. Y'all have continued to the same shit for years, for decades. And women have evolved Dr. D: Yeah. Coach A: and your response is to be mad and point the fingers, my nigga look inward. THE FUCK Dr. D: Just- just- just do better! Like, it's really that simple. Coach A: It's that simple! It's that fucking simple! Dr. D: You fail a test, you study, and then the next test, in theory, you do better. But you just keep failing and failing and failing, and you blame the teacher. Coach A: Them white men are not gonna save you. The white men are not gonna save you. They're not gonna fucking save you and neither is a black woman at that. Black women been saving y'all for years. We tired. They tired. I don't deal with y'all. They tired. Dr. D: Or your classmates? No. Right. And that's the thing. I think that's why like this generation of men are so particularly inclined to be incels or red pillers or whatever because in previous generations black women didn't have too many like there wasn't a movement to like decenter men in the way that it is today. But really ⁓ we need ya. They don't need ya. Like I'll speak, I'll say straight women don't need you. Coach A: No, and like, I- it's funny, cause see, and I wasn't even gonna get on here and do all of this. But, what I just said, the fact that there's women out here that can take your job and your girl- Listen. I'm sorry. Hold on. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. and that's the thing, and we talk about this, the girls don't even be gay for real, the girls don't even be gay for real they just want something better than you, they just wanna do better than you Coach A: Girls don't even be gay for- I'm telling you what I know. I'm telling you what I know. These girls don't fuc- Listen. Women are so fucking smart. Black women will do what they have to do. ⁓ use your brain. Use your common sense. your common sense. Do you really think, truly, that if you're not doing ⁓ what you're supposed to do as a you don't think that there's a woman out there? that will do everything that you're not doing and some and you don't think that your girl will still come to you and be like hey I need $200 blah blah blah blah and you gonna give it to her like a dummy Like, the logic just don't make sense to me. Dr. D: It is illogical. You can't make something that's irrational become rational. Coach A: Man, my grandmother told me a long time ago, you can't make sense of nonsense when you have sense. ⁓ I won't try. I won't try. I just want y'all to do better. Like honestly, I really want black men to do better. I genuinely do. I have nothing but love for black men. But at the same time, because I love y'all, I'm going to continue to hold you accountable. And I can tell you that I've had many a black woman come to me and tell me how y'all ain't doing y'all part. Dr. D: No, but it is- Right. Yeah. Coach A: I've had women tell me straight up, he pays the bills, I just do like, that's all he do is pay the bills. Dr. D: Well at least he's paying the bills because a lot of them don't even do that. Coach A: At least he paying the bills. But if that you need to feel needed, then by all means, go ahead and do that. Like, ⁓ you doing everybody a favor. If I wanted to date a woman and I ain't had to pay none of her bills, are you kidding me? kick out no ants? What the fuck was you talking about? Dr. D: That's easy. Coach A: Simple! You simple-minded fool! Leave with your wallet, I dare you! Leave... Le-leave with your wallet! Dr. D: They gonna be leading with Klarna Coach A: It can't even do that! Dr. D: It's just, I don't know, it's very, like, free my sisters, free my girls, free the ladies from the absolute squalor. Like, they are living in squalor because they, because unfortunately they are attracted to men and are just gonna stand on it. Coach A: This is this. This kinda ties into that bisexual episode that we had. This is a part of the reason why a lot of women are hopping the fence in the first fucking place, cause of this right here. Cause of this. Dr. D: Yeah. right don't even be really attracted to women but you know what is attractive? effort, emotional intelligence, money, consistency, being thoughtful, dates, like being taken on dates Free my homegirls. Like there are women in relationships who ain't never been on a date. But in relationship. Like for years. Not on one date. It's real- like, it's really rough. Like, y'all are really treating women horribly and then getting mad they were telling the truth. I don't understand. Coach A: It's not meant for you. Dr. D: I mean, somebody said something on our Instagram, think about something like who gave them a microphone or a pod, something to that effect of like, I don't know, like why, why, why do they have a microphone? Why did I have a podcast? Something like that. And it made me think you know, why we have microphones and podcasts? Because you have free time. You know why we have free time? Because we aren't tied down by like some kids that we really didn't necessarily want to have or some man asking what's for dinner like i spent the afternoon coloring you know why because i choose me like i choose the life that i want to live with the person i want to live it with and that means ⁓ not falling for less what i deserve and there's so many out there who who ain't spending the afternoon coloring they in the trenches working two three jobs to support a man and some children. And I'm so sorry. That's all I have to say. I'm so sorry. If that's not if that's your life, but like if that is your life, I just I just pray that you get the whatever kick. Hopefully this is the kick that you need to be like, you know what? I'm gonna put me first. I'm gonna go back to school. I'm gonna get that degree. I'm gonna get that job. I'm gonna I'm gonna do more in life, do the things that I want in my life and not live. Coach A: I'm Dr. D: paycheck to paycheck to support this bum. This squatter, cause that's what a lot of them are also squatters. Coach A: Exactly. And in 2026 gas is $47.38 a ⁓ And you don't want a woman that can go out and get ⁓ on her own? Are you ⁓ dumb? Dr. D: Right. No, because if you can get it on your own then you'll have some sense of independence. They don't want you- Coach A: Eggs is $30 a dozen Dr. D: No, no, they don't they don't want you to do that because when you start to provide for yourself, you start to have agency and that's what they don't want. If women could just make money and still be brainwashed into submission, that I think would be the perfect scenario for men. If women could bring in income, but still be submissive and that's that's like that's when I say cognitive dissonance, it's like what you're thinking and what you're saying don't add up. it's not it's not a match. Like you want women to be submissive. to help you build your business or whatever but also bring in money to support. Like it don't like you can't do both. You can't be a submissive provider. Coach A: Mm. Dr. D: ⁓ I provide? Everything's in my name. I'm paying all the bills. ⁓ I'm ⁓ the shopping, buying all the things, but you want me to submit to your leadership? How are you a leader if you're not doing anything? What are you leading? Coach A: You know, I knew somebody dated man, And she was telling me how, she everything for him in terms of like getting him to where he is in his career. Now, mind you, I wasn't throughout their relationship, so I don't know, But I'm saying this for the context of what we're talking about. She said that she did everything for him, made his resume, did all the things, applied for all of the jobs that made all of the money. Like she essentially positioned him and built him up. I think those were the exact words she did. I built him to be this man in order to make this money to provide for me. Right? Cool. Whatever. Like if that's, that's her right. That if that's how she want to her life, cool, whatever. But you know what's crazy? She told me not that long ago that she went to the doctor. and they told her, now mind you, while he, he building, like, cause he convinced her to build with him and blah blah blah blah blah blah, she had to let go of everything that she really wanted, which was kids, which was, you know, all of this shit. So he would always put it off like, ⁓ I don't want to have kids right now. I don't think we in the best position. I don't think I can really provide blah blah blah blah blah. Now she at the doctor, doctor telling her she got fibroids as big as a grapefruit. She can't handle kids. She gotta get a hysterectomy. She can't handle kids. Dr. D: Right. Coach A: So it's like you done sacrificed your whole fucking life building this man, growing with this man, and you gave up what you really wanted. You gave up you for this man. Dr. D: Yep, literally, literally you. Coach A: who also in addition has told me doesn't make her happy doesn't do everything they haven't had sex in months like all of this stuff all of this stuff that she does not get she has a laundry list of items of things that he doesn't do the only thing he does do is pay the bills and apparently that's thanks to her and I imagine that she is not the only one in a similar position Dr. D: No. Coach A: So are you asking black women to build with you, build with you, what ⁓ are you building? And can build on your own without black women? If you don't need us. Dr. D: Okay. Exactly. Can you build on your own? Coach A: If you don't need us, what the fuck you need us to help you build for? You grown, you macho, go out and do it on your own! Dr. D: But I do think that's insane. But it's like, if you have a laundry list of things that make you unhappy, and this is anybody, this is advice that goes anyway, not even in this context, but if you have a laundry list of things that you don't like about your person, why are you with that person? Coach A: And it's like for her, I know that's a very specific example, but it's like the one, the one thing that a man can actually give you that you can't necessarily give yourself. I mean, you, you, you can give yourself a child, but like, let's play devil's advocate. The one thing that this nigga can actually provide for you that you can't give yourself, which is a baby, a kid, you want to be a parent. He can't even do that. Dr. D: Yeah. Yep. Coach A: He can't even do that! Dr. D: It's really like sad that there are women who like essentially spend their youth. I'm not gonna say want to say waste, but I'll say spend. Spend their youth, their childbearing years, their full developing years, bending to the will of some man, whether that is, what a question is if you don't want or not can't afford and not ready for, whether it's having kids that you don't want or are able to provide for or not having kids that you do want. Like that's so sad. Coach A: Very. Dr. D: wheel. ⁓ What what? Coach A: And that's the thing, like I believe that women want to be there. Women will probably love, as a majority, women will probably love to get back to that. Cause that's what women do. Women nurture, they raise kids. That's what they do. I'm sure there are plenty of women who would love to do that. But those same women have come to the realization that they can't do it depending on a man. got to do it on their own. So that's why you have these women who are single mothers raising two, three kids, working three jobs. Like that's why they do that. because the alternative is dependent on a man who may or may not, heavy on the may not, provide. So what's the, what do you want us to do? You want everybody to suffer? You want the women and the kids to suffer? No, no, the women are gonna suffer and do what they gotta do to make sure the kids don't gotta go through that. Dr. D: Right. Coach A: So as a man, as a man, instead of pointing fingers, seriously, instead of pointing fingers, instead of putting a blame on everybody else and telling black women in all the ways in which they're wrong, I implore you to look inward. Have you ever, somebody said, one of them said, like, have you ever asked black man how you feel about it? No, why would I? Why would I? Why would I ask a black man how he felt about it? The facts were the facts. Dr. D: Yup. You know, you know, one of the one of the doofuses in our comments said, black women, whatever, talk more trash about their men in any other culture, almost every single family household, the mom used the children against the dad. And I feel like this is relevant because when they say that, like that narrative, like black moms or single mothers use their kids against the dad, that always confuses me because I don't think you necessarily need permission to raise your child. Men always complain, it seems like, ⁓ my baby mom don't let me see my kid. And it's like, if you're raising a kid, it's not somebody, somebody can't let you raise your kid. Like if you're raising them, you're raising them. You taking them to school, you take them to the doctor. Like you're doing all the things that raising your child entails. But letting me see my kid means Coach A: Right. Dr. D: you're throwing off their schedule, you're just like the fun person that they see every couple weeks and you feed them lies and like junk food and then send them back to their normal life with their mother. So to say the single mom uses the children ⁓ the dad is like even that ⁓ like even the fact that so many men stick with that lie, like if we stick with that lie, we tell that lie so much it becomes true. or it becomes a truth to them and that's the narrative that black women their kids and it's like if you were raising them they wouldn't that wouldn't even be a possibility if you knew the teacher's name and you was in the ⁓ dojo and if you know all the sports and stuff like if you were ⁓ you wouldn't need permission ⁓ choosing to be a ball as a parent as a co-parent as a father You're choosing that life. Like if you were raising them the whole time, you wouldn't need permission once y'all break up. i know. we gotta stop telling- like i think black men need to stop lying or stop perpetuating these lies and black women don't believe the lies. black girls don't believe the lies. Coach A: No. And men, have to reposition your thinking. You have to get out of this, like, I'm a provider. Like, that's your purpose. women have evolved. You don't need to be a provider anymore. You don't need to. For some women, probably, yes. Like, sure. But generally speaking, you don't need to do that no more. You don't. So have to shift your thinking. ⁓ can you become an asset? How can you be valuable to a woman? Dr. D: Even. Coach A: and other means besides being the motherfucking provider. Dr. D: You could be a partner. You know? You could be a partner. Coach A: Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. But y'all don't want to do that. Y'all don't want to do that though. Y'all more emotionally tied. Y'all are more emotionally tied to your homeboys than your girlfriend. Dr. D: No. No, because that requires Yeah, the same way you care about your homeboys perception, the same way you care about their boys trip or their birthday or their whatever, care about your girlfriend. Like, it's not that deep. Just be nice, be empathetic, be thoughtful. Coach A: it's not a- And like, be clear, it's not a competition. Like that's not what I'm trying to say. It's not a competition. It is more like a challenge that y'all are failing at, but a challenge like grow. Just grow, evolve, do something different. Dr. D: Yeah. Yeah. Coach A: Y'all doing the same thing expecting the same result. The same things that men were doing in 1976, y'all are still doing in 2026. By the way, that women were doing in 2026 weren't the same things that they were doing in 1976. That's the difference. Dr. D: Right, we've evolved. Coach A: That's the difference. Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Coach A: So do that information as you wish. I'm sure for some of you, I'm sure it won't won't phase you. You won't change your line of thinking. And that's cool. Like, I don't give a fuck. I ain't got no dog in that fight. Dr. D: Thank Yeah. We really just wanted to talk about the damn documentary. That was the purpose. But these are the most like passionate comments I think we've received and most like ridiculous. So I think it just made sense to come up on here one more again on this topic. And maybe we'll get some more comments and then maybe we'll talk again. But it's like, you know. Coach A: Yeah, that was that was that was the purpose that was the purpose Dr. D: We're just challenging you to be better, that's all. Just be better. And then we won't say anything. But you're not gonna be better, so we're gonna keep talking. Coach A: Literally the jokes write themselves when y'all when y'all comment. It's literally like you dummy like ⁓ The jokes write themselves. So keep them coming. We appreciate that. We appreciate that Literally Literally Dr. D: Mm-hmm. Yeah. We literally send them in the group chat. We're literally LOLing at you, but... You know. Coach A: you sound stupid so go ahead in the comments beat your chest dick measure do whatever it is that you feel like you need to do go off and god bless Dr. D: Bye.