Brianne Roberge: Hello, Reg Babe, and welcome back to another episode on the Go Regulate Yourself podcast. My name is Brianne. I am your host, and today we are here to talk about karma baby. Yeah, that's right. We're talking about karma. Okay? This is a subject that has been on my heart to share for such a long time. And in fact, the rewriting process of this started for me about three years ago when I went through my Business crash and bankruptcy and the online cancel culture attempt of me online. This is where a large percentage of my understanding of the energy of karma and law of attraction, all these great things really started to be rewritten for me to look at it from a different perspective, use it differently in my life, and also be super, super aware of the language that I was using and how I was referencing this in my own life. And today. We're gonna talk about all of that. So, first things first, when you think about karma, I want you to just pause for a moment, bring the idea of karma to mind. What is it that passes through your train of thought? What are you actually thinking when it comes to the word or the concept of karma? If you're like me, like I was for the longest time, or most people, you're probably thinking something along the lines of. They're gonna get theirs, karma's a bitch, karma always comes around, she always shows up, so on and so forth. And in fact, most of the time we're thinking about karma as a negative thing, something that is going to catch up with an individual and make them suffer consequences or reap their sorrows or whatever definition you wanna use in mind. And so when we're thinking of karma in this way, you yourself, and I know I am totally guilty of this, so don't feel ashamed or guilty or even embarrassed when you think about this, but you yourself in your life at some point have probably wished karma upon somebody, have thought about karma catching up with somebody. And this is to no fault of yourself. This is kind of what we've been conditioned to do in our society is believing that that bad energy is going to catch up with something. Now, I'm not gonna argue the fact that bad energy will circulate around and somebody will quote unquote get theirs, depending on the intentions and the purpose behind their actions. But I want to break this down for you to really understand what's happening behind the energy of karma. So, first things first, we have to talk about the law of attraction, right? When we are getting things in our life, when we are attracting things into our energy field. There is a certain amount of energy that we are currently holding that is causing more of that to flow our way. So we always talk about law of attraction, getting into the right mindset, though I really don't like that. If you've listened to previous episodes on the podcast, you know it's really not about mindset and what your thoughts are circulating around, but about the energy that you're holding. And so when we're talking about law of attraction, we're talking about getting ourselves into the right zone to be able to attract in the things that we most want into our life. For a lot of us, that could be a certain job, finances at a certain level, certain experiences in our life, maybe even certain things, a relationship, a certain feeling, maybe it is love, etc. We are all hoping to attract something into our lives and are trying to get ourselves into the zone of being attractive to that energy coming towards us. And so when we're thinking about the law of attraction and we think about somebody being in perhaps a more negative mindset, maybe somebody that does have really ill intention, really poor purpose. They are doing something on purpose to harm another individual. They are making decisions or choices that are ultimately harming somebody else. When we think of this energy and somebody being in this space, we can automatically then therefore assume that the law of attraction would bring these experiences back to that individual. If they are acting in an ill intention, they're likely to get ill intention back into their life. We can understand this from an energetic component. But what happens when we're talking about karma and we're talking about somebody getting theirs? What we're not realizing for ourselves in our own lives is that we are then opening ourselves up to this same energy. Okay, stick with me for a moment. I'm gonna walk back into the story of the last few years of my life. So I, as you know, if you follow the podcast for a while. Had a business that ultimately crashed really hard, really heavy, because I was ill-equipped to be running it. I made choices, I did things that really regrettably caused a lot of harm for myself in my own life, losing literally everything, as well as a lot of individuals who are involved in this business also losing a lot too. And the intention and the purpose behind this, despite what a lot of people want to believe in their life. Was not one of harm. I was not creating a business or making the choices that I was making with the intention of hurting somebody. It was a consequence of actions that I took, but not the purpose or the intention behind it. Now, this is important when we talk about the energy of law of attraction, because during that time when things were going wrong and poor decisions were being made and a lot of things were blowing up in my face. I was receiving a lot of consequence. I lost all of our finances. We burnt through my husband's pension. I ended up getting put into a bankruptcy. I went through the cancel culture where a lot of people hated me online and wanted to say everything about it. There was a lot of consequences I was facing as a direct result of my actions. Now, not a direct result of the intention and the purpose behind my actions because those were done with the best of intention in mind. I was creating something. For what I thought was a good purpose and with my whole heart attached to it. But needless to say, regardless of that fact, there was still a consequence that occurred within that action, and I got a direct relation of that law of attraction energy back to me in my life with the consequences I then faced as a result. Now, the difference is here is in this time when I was already going through my own quote unquote karma. The attraction part of this, the the hardship, the consequence part of this, where I was already facing these things in my life. There was a lot of individuals online commenting and talking about the fact that they hoped I was gonna get my karma, that karma would catch up with me. Karma's a bitch. They had a lot of things to say, assuming and judging the intention that they believed I was holding, regardless of the fact that it wasn't true, it doesn't matter. That was their. Interpretation and their perception of that experience. Now, in this, this opened up my eyes to this concept in a really deep way because what I realized in that moment was we, with the words that we are using on a daily basis, with the actions that we are taking, with the thoughts that we are thinking, with the things that we are doing, we are constantly determining for ourselves in our own reality what our lives are going to look like. We are determining what we are attracting back to ourselves. And so in this moment, when I have done something that has hurt another individual and I'm facing the consequences already in my life, and an individual commenting that they hope that I get the karma that they believe that I deserve, or that they were wishing ill things upon me. Again, if you want to listen to one of those previous episodes where I talk about the death threats and the escalation of this experience, you're more than welcome to. But in this experience, when I'm already facing consequences and I'm already going through the karma of the experience, individuals are then therefore commenting, hoping that I get it. Now, it's important to recognize that them commenting, wishing those things or sending that energy to me is not actually doing anything to me in my life. It is not attracting more karma to me. It is not sending more consequence my way. It is not making my energy be further negatively impacted by the things that they are choosing to do in their own lives. We are our own complete units. We are our own individual energy sources. Nobody else's energy and what they are doing in their own lives can impact the energy and the things that are going on in our lives. And this is a whole part of the responsibility. Of healing and growth is recognizing that we are 100% responsible for the things that are happening in our lives. Maybe not certain experiences that we go through, but what comes next, we are responsible for that. What we believe about it, the energy that we hold in regards to those experiences, how it impacts us from that moment moving forward. We are responsible for that. And that is the hardest thing for us to face in regards to our healing journey. So when we think of ourselves, As these individual units, that the energy from others cannot be impacted, that the things that they send our way in terms of the words that they use or the things they try to project towards us, if those things aren't able to impact us because we are our own individual energy sources, then what is happening with that language? What is happening with the things that they are doing? When they wish karma upon somebody, when you yourself wish karma upon somebody, if that energy isn't able to reach the source that you think it is aimed at, what is then happening with that energy itself? I hate to break it to you, my friends, but that's being directed right back at you. It's coming directly back to you in your own field of awareness, your own reality, your own energy source. Those words are coming right back to you. And this is why it is so important for us to be aware of the language that we are using in our own lives. Because when we wish karma upon somebody else, what our subconscious mind hears as it always hears is wishing karma upon a life. And the life it is referring to is your own, which means that we are attracting that negative energy, that wish of consequence, that wish of Pain, that wish of suffering, we are attracting that back into our own individual lives, which means that we are opening ourselves up to even more hardship, just simply wishing karma upon that person. Now I know that this is so frustrating to hear. And in the beginning, it might be super confusing because then you're thinking, like, what can I never be angry at somebody? Can I never know be frustrated that something occurred or be hurt by something somebody else did. And no, that is not what I'm saying at all. You are absolutely entitled to feel your feelings. You are absolutely entitled to move through the grief and the rage and the frustration and the anger and all the things that you're feeling in relation to being hurt by another individual. But that is where it stops because we need to move through those emotions, experience them in our own way, and release them for good. So when we hold on to these grudges, when we try to project it or direct it towards a certain individual, thinking it's gonna harm or impact them or bring something about their own lives, this is where that energy comes back directly to us. And this is where the problems occur. And so we need to really be cautiously watching our language in relation to what we are spouting out into the world. I don't know if you've ever gone through any of these subconscious practices. I did this a lot in coaching when I was leading women through trauma retreats, and we talk about how the subconscious mind worked. If I was to tell you, don't picture a blue tree, what's the first thing that your mind does? It pictures a blue tree. And why this happens is because our mind doesn't understand negatives. It doesn't understand the impact of not doing a certain thing in mind. It's like the same thing if you have a child who's carrying a glass of milk and you say, Don't spill, chances are they're going to spill because all their mind hears is spill. So our mind cannot work with negatives. And so when you're wishing and directing karma upon another individual, your mind does not understand or realize that you are referring to somebody outside of yourself. Your mind believes that every single thing that you think, every single thing that you say Is in relation to you in your own life. And so now we have to start to think about our language as being a tool that can massively impact our lives in relation to our growth, in relation to our healing, in relation to us getting to the place that we want to be at, attracting the things that we most want to attract in our lives. We might very well be the block that we are trying to overcome, wondering why we can't get to the next level, wondering why we can't break through the glass ceiling that's above us. We might very well be the cause by how we are using our language, the grudges that we're holding, the frustrations we're directing to other people, the things we're trying to project onto others. We have to understand that our language and sending karma, sending bad juju, bad energy out to other people is only ultimately impacting ourselves. And when you start to recognize that, that is where the true change is able to happen because you start to, without even thinking about it, without even realizing it, change how you're showing up. You start to believe the best about everybody. You start to work through your own emotions and release it for good, no longer carrying around all that baggage and weight from the past. This is what cutting a cord really metaphorically looks like. We recognize that holding on to that grudge is not harming anybody but ourselves. It's kind of like that notion of like finding forgiveness, right? If we hold on to this anger, we hold on to this resentment, we're not actually hurting that other person at all. They probably don't even realize that we're holding on to all of this anger and resentment within us. Which means that instead of poisoning the other person, we're actually poisoning ourselves. We're drinking it ourselves and thinking that we're doing harm to somebody else when in reality we're We're only doing harm to ourselves. And so this really conscious look at our language can be a huge tool in propelling ourselves forward towards a completely different reality. Just simply being aware that directing karma and directing bad energy on other people isn't actually influencing or impacting them at all. In the same breath on the opposite end of the spectrum, this is why it is so powerful for you to raise other individuals up, for you to cheer other people on, for you to celebrate other people, are doing really incredible things in their lives. When you celebrate somebody else for losing weight, even though your number on the scale hasn't moved yet. you're welcoming that energy into your life. When you celebrate somebody else for getting a promotion when you haven't moved and got a raise in several years, You're moving yourself towards that in your reality. When you celebrate other people for achieving, doing, creating, getting the things that you most desire, your brain interprets that as yourself in your own reality, getting or achieving that thing. no different than when you're directing energy out, your mind doesn't understand that there's another person involved. When you're sending those celebrations out, your mind, same thing, assumes that you're referring to yourself in your reality. And the more that you say it, the more that you celebrate it, the more that you recognize it around you, the more that your mind is going to raise your reality, the bar of your reality up to match that. It's going to welcome that in as a regular occurring thing for you, as your baseline. It's going to think that that's a natural part of your reality and it's going to make it so. So the more that you celebrate individuals, the more you are likely to have those things actually happen in your life. The more you're going to bring celebrations into your own reality. Bring possibilities and opportunities and blessings and all of these incredible things. But you have to be paying attention to where you're focusing your energy on what you're sending out and therefore receiving back in. And if there's one thing that you take away from this episode today, I hope that it's going to be paying attention to the language that you're using and thinking twice the next time you go to send somebody bad energy, wish karma upon them, or think negative thoughts in that way. Just completely disconnect yourself from it. Deal with your own reality, focus on your own stuff, and trust that the universe and the energy that's involved is going to rewrite itself. Energy is going to flow in the directions that it needs to, and the universe will bring about the balance that is required. That is literally the law of the universe. The universe will take care of it. Stop involving yourself. Stop putting yourself in the middle of that equation. Get yourself the fuck out of there and thank me later. Because you're not doing any good. You're not helping anybody. You're certainly not impacting or harming another individual with having your energy focused in that way. The only way that you are going to improve your life is to put your blinders on, ignore all this other shit that's happening in your reality, and lean in and trust that everything is on track for yourself in your life. Remove yourself from the equation, as I said. You do not need to be involved in the energy balancing of the universe. Universe has it covered, let me tell you that. Okay. Now to further from this, we talked about last week in relation to stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you. This also plays into the law of energy. When somebody is directing a comment at you, remind yourself that what they're directing out is just circulating right back into their own reality. Everything that they're wishing upon you, everything that they say, every bad energy or juju or message that you receive, remember that it actually has nothing to do with you. It's not impacting your energy unless you let it. It's not going to negatively Create a consequence for you in your life. This is just gonna rebound back in. The energy that these individuals are sending out goes right back into their own story, their own reality, and is nothing that you have to deal with. And just another further way to disconnect from giving a fuck what other people think. okay? I hope that this episode helped to inspire you to remove yourself from talking about karma or directing karma onto other individuals, to trust the process of what is unfolding in your life, and to start celebrating and finding positive reinforcements within your reality, whether that be directly or within other people, so that you can call more of this into your own life as you move forward. Thank you guys for being here. I hope that this episode inspired you to do something differently in your own life. And I will catch you in the next one. Remember to go regulate yourself.